Welcome back to All Kinds Radio. I'm so excited to be here with you guys, as always. Today's episode is all about overwhelm. This is a place I have found myself time and time again, and no matter how much knowledge and knowing that I have around what I need to do to keep myself out of overwhelm, I still manage to find myself there.
So, I know so many of you do, too. It can almost be a little bit of a default mode, so I want to talk today about how we can stop overwhelm in its tracks. I'm going to take you through a few very useful little tips.
Number one is when you find yourself back in that place of overwhelm, just firstly drop the judgment.
Instead of fighting it or judging it, or beating yourself up thinking, "Oh, my gosh, how did I end up back here?" Let's just get really curious about it. Let's get really curious about how you're feeling, and as the fear or stress or anxiety, whatever's arising, just let's recognise it. Just recognise what you're actually feeling.
So by doing that, where it's almost like an exhale, you know? It's instead of being in that space of, "Oh, my gosh, why am I here again?" And, "I can't believe that" and, "I know better." "I've dropped my practices" or whatever, which is almost keeping us in that energy of running on the treadmill, you know? We want to just exhale and get really curious, and just be like, "Hmm, how am I actually feeling?"
Which brings me to point two, is breathe. In that moment, whenever you can catch yourself and you're like, "How am I feeling?" Start to slow your breathing down. I will talk a lot, and I'm sure you'll hear me time and time and time again refer back to our breath. In that moment, in any moment you can feel that overwhelm bubbling up or that you're deep in it, just take a few deep breaths. Take 5 or 10 or 20, and just really concentrate on slowing your breath down. Slowing the inhale, and slowing the exhale.
This is actually one way that we can signal to our nervous system that we are safe. We don't need to rush. I'll go into a lot more about the power of breath over coming episodes, but for right now, just take a few deep breaths. 5 to 10, 20 if you have time. You may find focusing on one spot, find something to just focus on, and focus on that one spot before you breathe in and out.
Long inhale, extra long exhale. And then, come into a space of gratitude, so then it's about what can you really be grateful for that is working right now? Can you be grateful for catching yourself in overwhelm? Can you be grateful for now having the opportunity to create space? Can you be grateful for the beautiful people that are surrounding you? Can you be grateful for how passionate you are about what you're doing, that you work so much, that you find yourself in overwhelm? How can you now take that passion and instead of finding yourself in overwhelm, really do it in a way that is sustainable and feels good?
Look at all of the blessings, and just be really present with where you are right now. Another really beautiful tip, and this is something that I suggest to my clients, is meditation. Obviously I know we live in a very busy world and it's not practical for everybody to sit down for half an hour to an hour in the morning, and the evening, and in fact, meditation in my view, can be whatever you need it to be.
One of the things I suggest is finding the pockets of peace, is what I call them. Look for the little moments during the day that you can just do that beautiful breathing. It might be sitting at the traffic lights on your way to work. It might be why you're waiting for the kettle to boil in the morning. Another really beautiful way is when you're having a shower in the morning, or the nighttime, and as the water is coming down over your skin, focus on how that feels on your skin. Focus on the body wash that you're using, and does it smell? Is it foamy? Then imagine all of your worries, all of that overwhelm just being washed away and leaving you with this deep sense of inner peace.
Then, moving onto the last point here is journaling. That doesn't always mean writing. Some people will naturally really love to write, and that's great. Write away. But it's more of a reflective practice, so just getting accustomed and used to looking inside, it's one of the most effective ways to practice mindfulness, and a really great tip in stopping that overwhelm.
Being present and again, this could be writing down how you're feeling, and just being really present when you write each word. It could be driving, reflecting on everything that's led up to you being back in the space of overwhelm, and looking at that clearly, and with love. Again, this is not about placing harsh judgments on yourself. We're actually coming at this with a place of love, and you'll start to see your intuition will start to come through and be like, "Okay, I can see that I've done this because I was trying to please all of these people and I've actually put myself last again, and perhaps that a pattern of mine. So what I'm going to do now, I can recognise this, is come into that place of inner calm, come into that place of my truth and who I really am, and I'm going to start to feel into saying no and setting boundaries, and how can I do that?"
Or whatever arises, in what way, whether that's sometimes walking can be the same as journaling for people, as well. You might be able to really clear your thoughts as you walk and get that beautiful clarity, and be in that space where your intuition and that inner wisdom will really come through quite strongly, or it may very well be a beautiful notebook and pen, and a cup of tea or a coffee or a juice, or whatever tickles your fancy, and doing it that way.
I hope that these tips help you to really stop that overwhelm in its tracks, and come into that place of truth and learning to listen to that, and cultivate that mindfulness and cultivate that relationship with yourself, and your truth, and your intuition, and moving and moving from that place.
I hope you've enjoyed this today. Please leave any comment in the notes below, and you can find me at JoKendall.com. I love hearing from you guys. Let me know how you go with stopping overwhelm in its tracks.
Lots of love.